Blocks to Self-Love

Breaking Through: Identifying the Blocks to Self-Love

We often talk about self-love as a destination, but we rarely discuss the heavy lifting required to clear the path to get there. In many of our lives, there are "stones" or boulders blocking the way—burdens we carry in our "suitcases" or obstacles that stand between us and the sunrise of a new day.

Understanding these blocks is the first step toward moving them.

The Suitcase of the Past: Judgment and Neglect

Many of us begin our journey already weighed down. We carry a suitcase labeled with Judgment and Neglect. These are the heavy emotions we’ve packed away over the years, often stemming from how we were treated by others or how we were taught to view ourselves.

External Blocks: The World Around Us

Sometimes the obstacles are placed in front of us by external forces. These "stones" include:

• Negative Messages & Lies: The constant stream of "not good enough" from the world.

• Media and Advertisements: Unrealistic standards that make us feel inadequate.

• Survival Mode: Being so focused on just getting through the day that there is no room left for nurturing.

• Mistreatment & Abuse: The deep scars left by others that distort our self-worth.

Internal Blocks: The Walls We Build

Other times, the blocks are internal habits we’ve developed to protect ourselves, though they eventually become hindrances:

• Perfectionism: The impossible standard that tells us we only deserve love when we are "perfect".

• Critical Self-Judgment: That inner voice that highlights every mistake and ignores every triumph.

• Unforgiveness: Holding onto past mistakes (our own or others') that keep us anchored in pain.

• Comparisons: Looking at everyone else’s "highlight reel" while judging our "behind-the-scenes".

Clearing the Path

Identifying these blocks—whether it’s depression, trauma, over-working, or simply being unaware of what self-love truly is—is a brave act. By naming these stones, you take away their power to stay hidden. You can begin to unpack that suitcase, leave the judgment behind, and finally step toward the light.